Hakuna Matata

Third time’s the charm.

So they say...

Woke up yesterday to a text from one my favourite sister of all time.

She makes my eyes wide opened when she bombarded me with a question.

Just what I needed since I was all lazy and sleepy.

“How did you cope the feeling of lonely and being alone?”

I didn’t expect that as a morning call.

But then I smile.

Just because I can relate to the question, TOTALLY.

It has been quite sometimes that I am off the radar in the love department.

At first I do find it hard to digest.

Always being in a relationship for long periods make it much harder to accept that it is no longer there.

You’re alone and you just got to face it and deal with it.

Anyhow and anyway.

So what did I do to manage it?

First things first, I need to accept the fact.

Accepting makes it so much easier.

Just live life like you previously did when there was no one.

I soon realize, even during the period of relationships, I was all on my own.

I was never depending on others or my other half (so I thought).

I did what I was supposed to do, and I did even more for the relationship than I should have.

In conclusion, by not being in a relationship was a blessing for me.

A wake up call in general as I can make it alone.

Once I have accepted that, it’s time to divert.

Divert the attention and time spent longing, waiting and hanging on.

Indulge into a new hobby, find alternatives in other things.

There’s a lot the world could offer, you just need to look further and think outside of the box.

Don’t mourn the loss, stop the feeling of wanting to cry and lastly don’t cherish what has been lost.

It’s ok to have pieces of memories.

But don’t let if fall into the “what if..”, “maybe...”, “I should have...” box.

Let bygones be bygones.

You’ll be fine.

There’s no point of turning back when your heart is saying so.

Lastly, what I did was learnt.

Learnt from what has happened.

It is from all the mistakes that we are better.

It is from all that happen that makes us wiser.

And definitely that is what makes us mature in the future.

I will be lying to say that it is always smooth on the surface.

Still, when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.

There will always be some insecure feelings of ending up alone.

Just deal it in the best way you know how.

I can’t say this for all.

In my case, I indulge in writing and composing some songs.

Even if it is only for you, it makes you feel better.

Trust me, I've been there.

So why spent so many times worrying when there’s a lot of other things you can enjoy?

Held your head up high, straighten up.

When the time comes you’ll have what you seek.

The feeling of love and being loved. 

Hakuna Matata.